Letting it go is as conscious of a decision as deciding to love someone again. You face your fear, accept without condemning, whatever happened was horrible and sad, but then there comes a time when you look at it and you forgive it, and you shut the door on it. One will never be able to totally forget it but you can choose to forgive it and if comes up to assault your mind again you will remind yourself that the bad choices your H made were forgiven.
With time and with will you can focus your mind into more positive things and not the the A overshadow every thing.
See my thread under piecing called "the little black book" when I thought I' could never forget about finding out about my H's A and all the details I learned, there are awesome posts there.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
