Impotence...about the OW

[ReDesigner]

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear. You are exhibiting the most incredible self-control! It's funny, but after I posted, I got to thinking of a different way to re-frame the OW's feeble attempts to bribe my daughter. I guess it must be a really insecure person who resorts to buying their way into someone's acceptance. I had actually come around to thinking about it just the way you described. I'm not sure whether I'm going to generally comment on this to my D. She's got incredible radar for my ulterior motives! What I hope is that working with her counsellor, my D will see these cheap attempts to gain acceptance for what they are - pathetic bribery. I don't see any pure motives or altruism here. I just detest the way she's attempting to mess with my D's head.

Still, when I feel the anger, it lasts too long for my liking. I was thinking the most vicious, brutal and vengeful thoughts yesterday about what I'd do with that stupid woman's gifts and what I'd tell my H. I wonder if it gets any less intense after time passes? You sound like you have it under control. How long have you been able to do this? How long has your sitch been going on? For me, it's all too new and thank goodness as I read what others go through, I see a pathway and I start to see a roadmap of what I might expect. I'm trying my best to distance, but I do get thrown off guard once in a while. Thanks for your input!