Impotence...about the OW

[ReDesigner]

Thank you. You're right being silent is the hardest. I would really love to say and do a lot of things to this interfering OW. She's got four kids who could be as difficult for my H, so I figure he's got his work cut out for him, since their dad just hit the road a few months ago. I know he's doing the same. As I read on a post from a man who is a reformed cheater... I have to remember that my H and the OW have exactly the same issues. That's probably what drew them together in the first place.
Meanwhile, I will try to take your suggestion to talk a lot to her and ask her questions to help her clarify her feelings. I have to have some faith that she's a lot smarter than both those people who are "acting out." Thank you for your strength. I'm sure you're being the kind of dad your children need, if you can dispense balanced advice like you do.
How do you keep your anger at bay when the OM does things to intrude?