I'd say your job right now is to be the best listener you can be. Help your D sort through her feelings and the options that are available to her in this situation. You don't need to tell her what you think, that will influence her decision and probably end up biting you in the butt somehow!You know what you'll hear "You put her up to this, didn't you". Use empathy and help her sort through her feelings and options. Support her in whatever way she chooses to go. I know you'd love for her to tell H what an a@@hole he is being, but this is about her not you. Such a tough situation, isn't it. You see your child suffering and know why but feel pretty helpless in doing anything about it. It makes us parents nuts! Maybe by just being there for her, that will be the best you can do. My W's OP also sends little gifts home for my kids and a part of me would like to tell my W to take those gifts and stuff them up OP's butt! But, why would I do that? I believe in picking my battles and this isn't the one I want to fight right now. Let the OP try to win my kids acceptance, really, who cares cuz I'm Dad and always will be! I hope you're able to help your D through this painful period and I know it brings up alot of your own pain. Be strong,and keep being the good mom you seem to be!
