Things are going about how I expected. To slow for me , but how I expected. She is moving away from him emotionally more and more as time passes and will be home sometime in the next few months if my guess is correct. My daughter and her boyfriend are going down to visit her in SC next week otherwise I truly believe she would have been home by now.
She calls and talks with me once or twice a week and so far hasn't wavered on her overall plans. She is afraid of him physically so she wants to plan out everything carefully so she doesn't have to be around him when she drops the bomb. Hmmmm sounds very familiar !!!!!!!! Red Flag, Red Flag !!! Only this time my eyes are open and I realize she needs help and won't be buying into the whole situation until I see she can understand what it is she has been doing to herself and her family. Baby steps for a long time.
She dyed her hair very blonde according to her, I think in part to piss him off and subconsciously to express her inner feelings of time for a change. So, all the signs are there it's just a matter of time for the movement to begin.
More and more she asks why I have stood by her and continued to be her friend through all the rotten stuff she has done. I have yet to fully answer her question, as I don't believe she is in a place to fully understand the answer. She now refers to me as her best friend and occasionally signs her communications Love, ****** But all this is still her grasping and clawing her way back to some sense of normalcy.
Patty please be aware that even though we want our spouses back and deep down want the storybook romance relationship back in our lives that we are dealing with emotionally disturbed people. That they have far to many issues of their own to deal with before they can be part of a healthy relationship with anyone. That even though they physically come back to us that it will be a very long time, and with the proper help before they will ever be someone that we will ever be able to unconditionally trust again.
Still watching and waiting. I hope you have a peaceful and happy Christmas ! TPPPL, DaveA
You vote with your feet. Divorce final 12/24/2004 I Give Up !
