Lisa, I do feel for you. I have 3 young kids, no A...he claims he was miserable for a long time, couldn't deal with my depression his hectic life was crazy enough without me. I withdrew, he critized more...then left on Mother's day after big fight. The days and weeks that followed, he told me he "fell out of love"..."felt bad about us for a long time"..."wasn't capable of giving me what I needed" etc. Now 4 monthes later, we are seeing each other, spend nights together, sex is great. H now tells me he never "stopped caring" yet he hasn't said ILY. In the beginning I was thrilled at all the progress we are making. But now I am starting to second guess myself...why did he say all the bad stuff? I too know I should shut-up and be happy for what I have. I have to go on and live "as-if" but it is truly painfull...not really knowing what is going on in their minds. Honestly I don't think THEY know anymore than we do! My therapist told me which is the BEST advice I can give, "they are confused and don't pay attention to what they are saying but what they are DOING." I think sometimes they think out loud, and kind of use us as a sounding board. I will be married 10years Sept 11, and been together 12, still DBing he hasn't moved back in, and I haven't asked him to. Otherwise I would always be waiting for the other shoe to drop~~Bonnie
