My H did that for so long---using our s as an excuse. I don't know if it was to save face or what. A wise woman told me that there is no way he'd stayed w/ me all these years only for our son.
And our c is now addressing that same issue.
I told him of course his "love" for OW raged, the way he fed it. I likened love to a fire that has to be kindled.
I worry just as much that *I'm* faking it, because I have a hard time wanting a man who could think that piece of work OW was an "ideal woman." (gag)
I don't know what to say in the long run, but for now it looks like your H is doing the right thing to jump start your love again.
Words, what do they mean? My H made two attempts, and flipflopped back and forth over which life was the "sham." If the A is totally over we have to find a way to get over our mental block on HOW they flipflop. Easier said than done, I know!
