How do you know if your S is staying with you (at least for the 1 month per year of M timeline) because they really still care for you or just because they are going through the motions? My H dropped bomb back in Feb, you know how it goes, don't love you anymore, unhappy for soooo long, he holds out no hope for us. I moved out in late April to give us both space and H asked me to move back 2 weeks later. NOT to start over with us, but to get me back together with our 2 teenage sons and back in my own house. Yeah right. Such pride. I guess he had to save face at that point. He has seemed more at peace since he asked me to come back, between Feb 21st-May 6th he was in bad shape with MLC. no PA, but I suspect an EA. That is totally over now. He is affectionate and loving. Baby steps but sometimes I wonder if he's faking it. I recently brought up his crisis, he denied that. I brought up his turmoil, he denied that too. I brought up his unhappiness, he DIDN'T deny that. So, he's still unhappy apparently. I realize I'm lucky having this second chance and I am taking advantage of it by DB'ing to the max. I knew all the feelings for me were not gone in him, but he had to figure that out for himself. He told me a few weeks ago that he wasn't totally detached from me. He used to say "why should we be miserable for another 20 years". (we've been M for 19). A few weeks ago while IM'ing I brought up that he said he was miserable a few months ago and he said he wasn't miserable. I guess I should just shut up and be happy with what I have. So many others here are in such pain. Thanks to anyone who took the time to stop by. Lisa
