Thanksgiving went quite well. My H and I were functioning really well as a team all day. So, I asked myself "Why?". A vision came to me of who my H's ideal woman (the woman he would pursue) would be and what I have in common with her and how we differ. I think his ideal woman would be the Ione Skye character in the movie "Say Anything". I think it was interesting that LP pointed out that Type 7s raise their functioning by moving in the direction of Type 5. When I take the enneagram test, Type 5 is my strong second place. My H is more likely to "pursue" me when I am high-functioning but subdued, acting more Type 5-like.
Therefore, I am starting to think that my share of the problems in our marriage might have to do with low self-esteem (my belief that I can't be the Iona Skye character because she is much better than me) and sexism (I see the Iona Skye character as being more "Alpha" and therefore more masculine than the John Cusack character.).
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
