Quote: Jenny, I am still hot and bothered by your description of a good lover ( the sweetness combined with the raunchiness). It's a toned down version of the alpha male stuff...direct but connected; erotic yet sensitive...and it's perfect. I was going to jump Blackfoot's bones but now I'll jump yours.
LOL. Well, I do have a bisexual baby sister who is just like me except miniaturized and amped up. Interestingly, I have no desire to jump Blackfoot's bones, instead I was kind of thinking that he'd make a good match for my high-functioning Type 9 daughter some day if he was about 10 years younger, which is really a much higher compliment.
Quote: The ideal 4 mood thing is a little like that... I'd want someone who could connect with some of the down stuff ( like notice Dad'a not doing so great and doesn't that suck) but then says " hey, lets go to the movies and watch that silly penguin movie." Acknowledge reality, stay connected and then do something fun. H and I haven't been able to master this due to all the mood fusion.
I do try to do this with my H but it doesn't work. His response to the "silly penguin movie" suggestion would be something like "I don't feel like we should be enjoying ourselves in that manner when I have job search work to do so I'll just lie in bed and do nothing instead.". I think this is because his male oppositionality and his Type 4 negativity team up in a most unfortunate way. What would work much better would be for me to offer the empathy and then say "Well, I hope you feel better later. I think the kids and I will go check out that new penguin movie.".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
