Jenny, I am still hot and bothered by your description of a good lover ( the sweetness combined with the raunchiness). It's a toned down version of the alpha male stuff...direct but connected; erotic yet sensitive...and it's perfect. I was going to jump Blackfoot's bones but now I'll jump yours.
The ideal 4 mood thing is a little like that... I'd want someone who could connect with some of the down stuff ( like notice Dad'a not doing so great and doesn't that suck) but then says " hey, lets go to the movies and watch that silly penguin movie." Acknowledge reality, stay connected and then do something fun. H and I haven't been able to master this due to all the mood fusion.
