__________________________________________________________ It just occurred to me that maybe all the problems in my marriage could be summed up by my belief/feeling that I am not "allowed" to be happy in this relationship because my H is an unhappy person. ___________________________________________________________
My H is more variable in his level of happiness than your H sounds but I have often felt this way. The thing is that it is empathy not sympathy that we need from loved ones. We need to accept their feelings but not actually feel them ourselves. Many of we nurturing/helping types mix that part up. The question is - What does it take for you to be happy in the face of your H's unhappiness?
