Quote: I'm curious...if he is being the elf, and you don't need practical help, then specifically what is it you want from your H?
Oh, probably nothing that doesn't reek of fusion . I just don't want him to say things like "I hate the holidays." or "We don't have a happy family life. That's just your delusion." because it bums me out.
Quote: If your H fried the turkey, he would be the star of the show. Does that idea bother you? Does it irk you that he would get a lot of credit for just standing in front of the fryer when you're the one who made the whole day really happen?
No, that's really not it at all. Maybe the turkey fryer would be a good plan for next year (though I truly believe that the stuffing that is roasted in the bird is better than the stuffing baked on the side). I am happy to delegate or accept offers of assistance for most holiday tasks. For instance, my Type 2 MIL will bring the pies since she's an expert pie baker (and does crave that sort of attention/credit-LOL) and my Type 9 daughter likes to decorate the house.
Probably what I really need/want is to have a 4 year old who believes in Santa around the house to cheer me up. Which probably means that what I REALLY need is to get in touch with my own internal 4 year old who believes in Santa. Once I do that I can just ignore cranky old Scrooge because I'll be too busy decorating cookies (or perhaps holiday protein bars ), building snow people, admiring light displays and rereading Dickens. Gee, I feel better already! I am so easy.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
. I just don't want him to say things like "I hate the holidays." or "We don't have a happy family life. That's just your delusion." because it bums me out. 