I would like to move our conversation over here to your thread, too. I just replied on the other thread, but if you want to reply to that, I suggest you do it here.
Regarding moving around the Enneagram...when the 7 is stressed, she goes to 1, and the down-side of 1 is the "self-righteous indignation." You don't move around the Enneagram "star" in linear (or circular fashion).
The flow goes in this direction when it is positive and healthy:
4 to 1 to 7 to 5 to 8 to 2 to 4
The 3-6-9 have their own inner triangle. The healthy direction for them is 6 to 9 to 3 to 6.
The unhealthy direction reverses these,
4 to 2 to 8 to 5 to 7 to 1 to 4
And the same for the inner triangle-- the negative direction is 9 to 6 to 3 to 9
What this looks like in real life is as follows: as a 4 I am inclined to melancholy, nostalgia, envy, wishing I was somewhere else. In the healthy direction, I move toward 1, which is a person who takes action and doesn't sit around contemplating their navel. When the 4 moves in the unhealthy direction, she moves to 2, the caregiver-rescuer (sound like anyone you know from the BB? )
When the 7 moves in the healthy direction, she moves to 5, which is the scientist, the conservator. The "sin" of the 7 is gluttony-- buying things, eating things, drinking too much, and probably getting drunk on experiences, too. The 5 is more conservative, reserved, more analytical. Interesting that cobra actually represents your positive direction, in a theoretical sort of way.
The negative direction for the 7 is 1, and as I said above, the downside of the 1 is the person who is always right, the my-way-or-the-highway type. Interesting that the 1 is a negative direction for you but a positive direction for your H.
ASIDE: This very righteous, "I know best" kind of woman is referred to by some Jungian writers as an "animus woman," or a woman who is suffering from "animus possession," which means that she talks from her head and not from her heart. She goes on and on in a dry, theoretical way, but without compassion or a heart.
According to Jungian thinking, the man's soul is feminine (anima) and the woman's soul is masculine (animus). They function in slightly different ways. This explains (in part) the swept away sensation of falling in love: through the Beloved you feel that you have connected with your own soul. In loving the other, we finally permit ourselves to fall in love with ourselves.
They also talk about a man being "anima possessed"-- a man possessed by his anima is mopey, lost, confused, lacking in will and direction. But these ideas belong to another system. END OF ASIDE.
There is no one Enneagram position that is better than the others. Each has its upside and downside.
The Enneagram is a pretty deep system. We just dealt it a glancing blow here.
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