Hey gals, Wanna know when my situation took a turn for the better in a way that felt permanent and not Honey's Good Luck for the Week?
When I stopped indentifying as the HD partner. I just stopped and he stepped up. It took nearly a year for our roles to solidify and shift but they seem to have done just that. The interesting thing is that our frequency is basically the same.
Anyway, I now think that the HDW can never have true success until she is able to either convince her mate to live up to his HD potential, or become LD herself.
It's been a weird ride to come full circle. I went from being HD-but-silent-and-sad to HD-but-silent-and-happy with a relatively short period in there where I was HD-and-loud. All of these periods were a necessary part of the process but lasting success could not happen until my desire dropped off enough and he had enough time to regroup. Then my desire picked up again and now things feel very nice and solid.
