Value vs. Validation- Mojo's Grand Unified Theory

[LostGal]

Damn Lil, what is it with these guys? Everything is rosey, just as long as they "make and serve ya a cup of coffee"(or pumpkin pie or whatever is your "thing")

I don't mean to jump on your posts, but, they are that good for me and others that maybe going thru the aging of their guys.

The other day when I said I blew it and hit all the wrong buttons,

H said,"How can I get close when you fly off the handle?"

I said, "What is it that the guys say? She needs to be laid? Ever consider THAT? What harm would it do for you to hold me for 5 min?"

H,"Well I do give you a hug"

M,"What about holding me 10 min?"

H, "A second ago it was 5min. Where will it stop? What's enough for you?"

M,*blink* "What does that have to do with anything? What were you going to do with that time? Is it too much of an imposition to hold your wife for 15 min?*blinks more*"

Where did the guys get the idea that sex was on a quota? Where did they get the idea that we had no need for affection? Yet don't cook like when they were kids and they will sulk for a week! hmm...(in an effort to get back to the thead, that is a Value post isn't it? Well Value for him and Validation/Value for me.)

Desparation and hopelessness hurts...{{{Hugs}}}