Quote: I'm at 110% in terms of emotional support, bringing important things into his life (therapy, gardening, choir singing), having a great R with his kids, etc., and NONE of that has made him reach for me sexually
Lil, I think some cases are different due to medical problems, in your bf's ED/his mothers influences and abuse case, and aging/medical implications in BB's case.
Quote: He may want me, but I have no way of knowing it
That is sad.
Quote: I'm convinced that any desire he might have for me (and I've not seen evidence of ANY for years) is in no way related to anything that I bring to the R.
Sorry you feel this way. It's difficult to believe all of the things you two for each other, doesn't enrich the R. Showing sexual for you is another animal.
Hypothetically, Are you saying if you quit the R cold-turkey, your bf would not try to reclaim/rebuild the R?
Lil, I am beginning to think many of the books we read work better for people with normal mechanics and hormones. IE they would work for people like you and me, but might not work for people with your bf's ED and BB's supposedly worn out, no-hormonal state, equipment in the sexual desire dept. I am beginning to think good friends status is about all we will achieve.
That is just what I see today. Your case is different so do your own thing, come to your own choices.
