I have followed your posts and I too have been in the same prediciment you have been. I wasn't involved as long with my ex-bf, but I was just as much in love. When we split, it took me 2 years to get over him and then he came back...but things never got off the ground and I was heartbroken again. Deep down, most of us here really miss what we had...and I realized that my ex was not the last man on earth that could make me happy!!! I picked myself up and realized that I had to be away from him or any talk of him 100%. I got on a dating website and met a man who I am still seeing since July of 2005. Let me tell you...at this point you need to really work at opening up your heart to someone else. I realized that my ex was just not the man for me...and he has since met another and gotten remarried. Do I care now? I can honestly say no...in fact, I am completely indifferent towards the whole thing. But had I been in contact with him, I would have never healed. You have to take control of this...and get away from him completely. He has moved on and the more you realize this, you will want to move on also. I wanted to be a stronger person more than I wanted him in the end. And being with someone new didn't hurt either...I am very happy. Not to say we haven't had our ups and downs...but all in all, I am happy and rarely think of my ex. My advice is to stop contacting him and allow yourself to heal. Get out there, do things...and allow yourself to love again. You are really only hurting yourself by contacting him...start loving yourself instead of pining away at what you used to have.
