Had a pseudo date with someone else last night. It was definitly fun, but come on? Why do guys think I'm going to sleep with them on a first or even third date? Is this just how the world is today? THey seem so rejected and like they did something wrong. No, I just am not like that. Am I that much of a rarity?

How do I let a guy know that it's nothing personal that i'm not going to sleep with them. They really do seem to thinnk they did something wrong, when in actuality it was just never going to go there. Have other women spoiled them?

I really want to know how to handle this. 2 different times I tried just telling them as in, I'm not going to sleep with you tonight, so they don't think I'm leading them on.
They acted so surprised that I would even mention it, then proceed to try to make it happen.
How do I deal?

Maybe I should give up on the dating thing and just work on making friends. When do I get a reward for all my hard work? You know it really was hard to get out there and learn how to date etc. Especially when I didn't want to move forward and was still in love with my ex.

In addition I'm finding that I have had a longer and more significant (in living with each other) relationship than most of these guys who are even quite older.

The more that I find this out and the more these guys talk about these shorter relatinoships as so significant the more validated I feel as far as my ex, thinking after 6 months I should have been over it.