Had a conversation with ex on Sunday night. We talked for awhile on the balcony. then he invited me in. He got me a drink. He was fishing around to find out about these guys I'm seeing and how I feel about them.
He doesn't want to fight with me He wants me in his life(supposedly)
The alien was almost completely gone. He can't remember any of this mean stuff he said or did. But gets angry if I bring it up, so I tried not to. Some of it came up in answering some of his questions.
His place was a wreck. He's also gained 20pounds. That's not a big deal. All the things I left behind, photos on the walls etc. were still there.
He was checking me out.
He seemed really happy to speak with me.
We were talking about things and he said, why do you have to go so deep, you have to ease into it.
This is different than not wanting to speak about deep things at all.
I listened to what he said, and brought the conversation back up to light.
I had a date last night so I had to go. New guy.
So, 1. he doesn't want to fight 2.He can't handle too much deep talk 3. He doesn't remember even saying I'm boring though he said it at least 100 times and it was one of the less cruel things he said. 4. He said that he thought we were going to get married and have kids too, that he wasn't leading me on, he really thought we were going to also. 5. and most important. I actually saw empathy in his eyes. whow. Guess he's not an NPD.
WEll, now at least I can have some closure!
Date last night? Started out fun, then turned into work. Have another date on Frid. with someone new though.
