IHH, hon, this is more than a bad marriage. I'm not telling you what to do. I am asking you to think and pray long and hard about this however.
As a man, I have to say that there is never any excuse for anyone to lash out violently because of anger. Never...particularly when it involves an adult lashing out against a child he's supposed to protect. And I'm a recovering "angerholic", mind you, so I understand the rage...I experienced it weekly if not daily for a long, long time. However, I never struck my wife or my kids. I was definitely harshly critical of my wife and very mean to her. I was impatient with the kids. But I never hit or hurt anyone physically.
He's crossed a very significant line. This isn't about DB'ing and detaching in order to save a relationship. I don't claim to know everything, but I know that no marriage has any hope of being anywhere close to good or healthy as long as one or both parents is actively participating in that kind of rage.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
