This is NOT what I expected!

[InHisHands]

Hey, mama! Thanks for checking on me. I figured I would hang around & read other people's threads in case I ever decide I'm relationship material again.

Honestly, I haven't made any decisions about my M since that last post. I'm bothered not so much by what he said, but by the way he said it. I could understand it and overlook it if it had been said in anger. But it was said after he had hours to process his thoughts. It was said as a resolution. KWIM?? It's like this was the best possible solution he could find to our problems.

One of the hardest things in our marriage the last several months has been his threat that the next time we fight, he's leaving. I had decided I won't live under a threat of any kind and that's what kicked off this whole mess (well, that and Skanky Ho @ work).

Now there's a new threat. I've been doing volunteer work for the Domestic Violence shelter in our county and I can't afford to be a hypocrite on this issue. It's barely acceptable to threaten violence in anger, but it's absolutely unacceptable to use the threat as a means of control.

I don't know. I'm kicking it around in my head. Still not clear on boundaries, etc.