What about saying something like, "You know, I see now that that Nov. 15 date is awfully arbitrary and artificial. I realize I came up with that because the future looked really scary and uncertain back then and I didn't know what to expect, and I guess that was an attempt at regaining some sense of certainty. Howver, I can see that you're committed to trying, and I realize we both have some work to do to get to where we need and want to be for ourselves and our kids. I don't think any kind of deadline is helpful right now. I believe our marriage can be great and I want to do my very best to make that happen, and focus on that right now."
Then, either discuss it further IF HE HAS ANYTHING TO SAY/ADD, otherwise...and here's your motivational phrase for the week (insert drum roll here):
DROP IT AND DO IT!!!
Heh. I know you're concerned, but you can do it.
Last edited by toughlover; 10/30/0605:26 PM.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
