Great advice, I get it now. One more thing and I'm sorry to be such a pain . . . How do I handle the ultimatum? Just apologize in general & move on or specifically say that the date is meaningless and tell him that I am letting go of that stupidity?
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Another thing...Don't discuss this stuff with your Mom and your Sister. They love you, they know what you have been through and they will tell you what you want to hear, not always what you need to hear.


Do you know, that is the first thing that I thought of AFTER I had already done the damage. Why can't I realize these things BEFORE I act?

H-44
M-36
Married 6/7/03
8/17/06 - H not sure he wants to be married any more
8/17/06-present - Just crawling through the rubble that's left of my life
2/8/07 - H admitted affair