IF you act as if he is is going to be really mad or blast you for what happens, you will be definsive and this silly argument will escalate.

If you act as if everything is OK and you are sorry, show some humilty (no grovelling) and write it off as you had a long day with the kids, you over reacted and you are sorry about the WAY you said it.

The man loves you, he is trying hard ( as are you) to get your mariage back on track.

Don't be so fatalistic.

People get mad.

They say stupid things.

Work on your anger issues, and the letting go.

Life is way too short for BS.

If one of your goals is to have more time together as a family then wait for the right time to bring it up. The next time you all do something together let him know how much you enjoyed the time as a family. Show him how much you appreciate the time he took to make your event special.

When you came home and he saw that you all had a good time without him, maybe he felt a little guilty because he knew he should have been there and over reacted.

I also think that you are assuming the reason your S had a hard time was because everyone else had their Dads there. You are taking your feelings and shoving them onto your S because YOU wanted your Husband to be there too.

Another thing...Don't discuss this stuff with your Mom and your Sister. They love you, they know what you have been through and they will tell you what you want to hear, not always what you need to hear.

Last edited by brandnewday; 10/30/06 04:08 PM.
There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.