Website with articles on affairs

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There's some interesting stuff on there - I'll have a good look when I get more time. I'm having a bit of a hard time dealing with my H's affair at the moment.

I liked this bit about what works...

"..making a commitment to honesty (rather than just a promise of monogamy), and engaging in ongoing, honest communication about everything that impacts your relationship, including attractions to others."

I think our problems really started because my H was not able to be honest with me about the doubts and unhappiness he had in the R, so I never had the chance to do anything about them. I've made loads of changes since the bomb, but by then he already had the OW and I'm bailing the ocean with a sieve.