Website with articles on affairs

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it has good articles and lots of excerpts from other books, I thought this one was interesting:

"This yo-yo up and down in my ability to cope with his affairs continued to keep me off balance for two or three years. There were times when things would be great and I'd think I was over the hump and had adjusted. Then...Bam! I'd get knocked all the way back down into a depression.

Of course each of us is different, but I think I'll stop beating myself up for being slow on letting the A hurt dissapear, it's been barely 2mts since I found out.

And I also found this one helpful:

One other important factor, of course, with a person feeling sexual is determined by how they feel about themselves. When we feel good about ourselves, we're more likely to feel sexual. When we feel bad, we don't feel sexual.

My H told me yesterday he still feels bad about the whole thing, and I think that also is a factor which affects his feelings for me, but at least we do have a SL and each month he has become more affectionate and more passionate when me ML, I'm glad about that even if the ILY aren't here yet.

And just today I was thinking about the different kind of love that H had for me and the attraction he had for the other (only one one note it said he loved her, all the others only mentioned how much he liked stuff about her)
My loved pulled him out of a dark place when he met me, he became a better happy person, he even told me on sat. that it helped him settle down because he was in a bad place at the time. Whatever feelings he had for the other made him feel good..for a while, then he'd sink really low and he tried to get out of it by going on shopping sprees and trying to please her, neither worked.

Once the "romantic" phase dissolved they saw each other's faults and things went downhill from there.

I'm happy to think that the love we had was true love, not the fantasy addiction he had while w/the other