FS, I think it's great that she wants to learn more about the finances. She needs to feel like an independent person too. I know my W always resented me "controlling" the finances, I too tried to get my W involved and she wasn't interested! Go figure. So tell her you think it is wonderful that she wants to know about this stuff. Maybe set an "appointment" monthly where you sit down and go over the finances together. Maybe she can pay the bills or whatever. Use this as a chance to be a team, working together on this. The more you do things together the better for your sitch. You mention your percieved lack of ability in expressing your feelings. This is another big thing you can do. Start reading and expressing. Start small and work your way up. Many have suggested "men are from Mars, Women from Venus" as a good intro into the differences between male and female communication. All this turmoil could result in a better, more complete man here. Keep moving forward FS, it's getting better.
