It does sound like you have the right attitude and a good opportunity to make things right. Sounds like we are very similar as I had/have a lot of the same problems with intimacy and like you I always focus on $$$ and sports and whatever else instead of my relationship with my wife. It is like we get complacent because inside we know we love our wife and kids and we think they should know that...that is why we work so hard ...that is why we come home at night...etc...but what we need to realize about women is they need to feel loved all of the time...they need a lot of little gestures constantly. They need us to keep things interesting...we need to make them laugh...we need to tease them sometimes and make them feel a little giddy...women are different creatures...they need constant reassurance and constant confirmation that they are loved...you cannot let them get bored or they will start looking elsewhere. I think many many men struggle with this info...it is our instinct to not fix something if we do not feel it is broke and we all get complacent and focus on the wrong things.
It sounds like your wife wants to give you a real opportunity and you sound like you have the right attitude to make that happen. Read a couple of the books people have recommended in other threads...cause it sounds like you want to make things happen but you are not quite sure what to do.
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