Sometimes it is really great to just sit back and observe your R as a witness rather than a participant. You can see things more objectively, it sounds like you are doing this. You are picking up good insights into yourself and therefore the R. Keep looking and coming up with actions that will turn things around. You are seeing your part in the sad situation, that is so important. It is so easy to sit back and attack the wandering spouse for their wrongdoing but it's a hell of a lot more productive to look at yourself, as you are doing. So, yes, GAL and spend time with your family. As strange as this sounds, this may actually make you a happier, healthier person in the long run with or without the W. Hang in there, Flying_solo! I'm in a rambling mood tonite, I hope I made some sense
