Good to hear someone else has these thoughts as well, it gets kind of lonely in my head. DBing is great in that it will focus on me becoming a happy person which should lead to knowing what I want in this R or a future R, the rub is that the two children our part of what I want in life and therefore make it difficult to set boundries, lines in the sand,etc. I understand that detaching is leaving behind the bad habits/traits that I did in the past and treating my W different. With that being said I have to be honest I am not sure I would put up with the hell I am in right now if it was not for the children. What I do not want to do is spin my wheels with the same obsessive behaiver that has some how taken over my mind and led me to this BB in the first place. In other words there is usually a way out of the forest and I catch myself not looking for the path. Every ounce of me wants to fight back; however, all this will accomplish is seperating myself from my wife and children. I am the father who is the provider and has been through our whole M. I am not viewed upon by the legal system as the parent that would win a custody battle. I need to run but I will follow up tommorrow
