Flying Solo, just remember to take everything she says with a grain of salt. What she believes today can change just as quickly tomorow. So, my advice is to take your time with this and make thought out choices based on what is best for you and your sitch. Don't let emotion take hold cuz it can make you do things you will regret (often right after you do them). She'll say she does not love you, the OM is her "soul mate", he understands her like noone else, she won't remember anything good in your M (my W says "I don't think I was ever really happy") but she'll remember every sh!tty little thing you have EVER done or said (I once said, "sorry I hurt your feelings 15 years ago, what else do you want me to say?"). It won't be fair or an accurate judgement on her part, it is all feeling right now BUT it is all based on something that was missing or has died in your M. Look for what was missing and start working on it. We all know feelings change through action. If you take action she must respond in some way, if you change the dynamic in your M, she must respond in some way whether she wants or expects to or not. Have thick skin, my friend and remember to take care of YOU, if you don't your sitch is sunk. I hope this was of some help. You've got a better shot than you probably think you do right now!
