Thank you for the support, and I agree that even though I want to confront her with the info that I have it will probably only push us closer to a S. She is living two lives, one as a stay at home mom with the kids and one with the OM. I am interested in hearing more of your story, you said that this moved you closer to a S and D. Where are you at now.
I am somewhat still in denial that my relationship with my wife is over and the effects this could have on my family. I realize that by the time I found this web site that my relationhip was dead, it is easier said than done. I only have one option and that is to focus on myself. Prior to the Bomb being dropped my life was made up of three things: my family, work and working out. I never realized that I was not meeting the emotional needs of my wife, I made the mistake of believing that routine equaled satisfaction. The hardest part about finding out that she is dishonest is the fact that I cannot understand why she would continue to lie, given everything she has told up until this point. She has stated that she is in love with someone else and that she does not love me anymore. (OUCH) I realize she just needs a friend right now, I am no longer her husband. In fact the more I act like her friend the better response I receive from her. It just hurts so bad to look at my kids and her and think about what might happen. I really hate the cards that I am holding right now and need help in making sure I play the hand I have been delt to the best of my abilty. I hate spending time in the past playing Monday morning quarterback, I see the mistakes I made and wonder why. I feel like a player who has been tackled in the feild of play and is having trouble standing back up. I have always been able to get back up in the past, why is this so hard do this time.
