I have posted a fairly long message on my first thread labeled new to the message board and I am feeling a little out of control with what I know today and was wondering what other people might think on the subject.
Brief summary, My wife dropped the Bomb in July that she wanted a D. We have two Sons ages 4.5 and 14 m. I found out in late July about OM, who is married with a 4m. I am living in the house and we were moving towards a S at her request; however, due to financial issues we have backed off. She had told me that she had stopped all contact with OM while we worked on our R. Funny her idea of work is that I make all the changes and she will determine if it is good enough. I made the mistake over the weekend of viewing her e-mail and finding out that she is planning on going out of town under the disguise of seeing her girlfriends to meet with OM.
I asked if she was communicating with other man in any way and if she had seen or would be seeing him and she looked straight at me and said no. I obvouisly know this is a lie which is hard to swallow, even after all that has gone on and I am having a tough time faking the excitement for her upcomming trip knowing that she will be the OM. I want to let her know that I know; however what would that accomplish. I have been working on GAL,PMA and understand that my relationship is gone and I can only control myself and need to stay focused on myself.
With all that being said I am having trouble acting as if. Please help with any insight any of you have regarding my delimina. Confused and not sure I can act as if for the next couple of weeks.
