Quote: Lou, phew I dunno, you guys work really hard for us and we just don't appreciate it huh
Fran, I know I used money to back up my point but what was more important about my eating out story was I agreed to one fancy meal out a week. I thought given the week's circumstances and our financial condition at the time (but leave out the money part) the exchange of 3 low priced meals took care of my obligation for the fancier meal. BB didn't see it that way. She mostly saw she wasn't getting her fancy meal out. She saw a loss of the social activities associated with going out. In other words we each had a different view of why our own thoughts were right.
Being a guy that thinks in cold hard facts, I threw in the money part. It is the type of information that is not subjective.
FWIW, many people that are self employed see things differently than people that work for someone else, especially it the employed person works for a company that has paid holidays and other benefits. There is really a difference between working for a company that has paid holidays, benefits, and the company is making lots of money to one that is not.
Compare that to an individual that is in an industry that doesn't make a lot of money, has lots of competition, customers are not loyal to one person or company, a business that has lots of expenses and the boss pays everyone else and his expenses first and the boss gets to keep what is left over. sometimes there is a lot left over and some times there isn't much left over.
I know I get confused looks from my customers when I say I will be back on Monday sometimes. They say "Monday is a holiday, why would you come back then?" I don't look at life as what do I get. I look at life as what do I have to do to get the job done and keep this person as a customer, and of course how do I make money.
I am not saying your H is right or am I making excuses for him. I am not saying you need to see things from his POV. I am just posting information that I have to work with and if any is helpful, it's yours. If it is not helpful, ignore it.
I am not condoning any drinking/alcohol or other addictions or demeaning, neglectful behaviors your H might have.
