Coming from a man who has analysed his relationship as deeply as you evidently have, your words are praise indeed.
Frankly, I didn't expect Haphazard to answer my post. I do hope that she read it, and perhaps at least one or two of the points will make her ponder.
Now she says she looks like a bitch. No-one on this thread suggested such a thing. So, why does she write this ? IMO, it's a guilt trip, which avoids having to actually answer the questions.
The problem with the one-up/one-down analysis described by Haphazard is that it fits exactly what she wants to hear. I would be very wary of any theories which lead me to think "Oh! so that explains it." I would prefer : "Oh [censored] ! so that explains it." i.e. the truth is very rarely comfortable to hear.
