Fran, about Alphamole posts, I relate to what he is saying because in my R with BB, I feel/hear the message coming from her "not good enough or she wants more of the good things I do for her and us.
Maybe I do some of the things your H does that cause you to feel less than something (I don't know what you feel) or that he is not doing his part in the M.
I am not suggesting you are the problem, just that you consider Alphamole words as partially right or consider his post as having some merit. That some of what he said, you could rearrange to apply to your situation. Kind of like I do with the books I read where I only agree with/comprihend 25% of the book's content.
Again, I am not trying to say you are the bad guy in your R, but your H may feel similar to some of the things Alphamole posted.
