Hey there! I can't see that yopu did anything wrong. However, do lay off the compliments that you give her.
She feels weird b/c you got a tan and you lost weight. It tends to throw the cheater off balance.
You see, we don't want our private world to mesh with our M. We need to keep it seperated - when we see our S continue with their life, we get curious. Why are they changing? We don't like the S to change. It takes the mystic and secrecy out of the A. Two key components of an A.
Continue on with the focus of you and the kids only. Do things that will make you feel good about you.
When the cheater sees that you're not going crazy, crying or losing it...we wonder.
When you need to get crazy, cry, etc., do it w/o her seeing that.
You sound a lot better...don't worry that you may not fly together. This will give you more time to think.
When the papers come, don't open them up. Let them sit there until she comes and gets them.
