Today, at work (oops!), I did my semi-annual thing. I ordered my new supply of lingerie from Victoria's Secret. Then, I started thinking, has anyone really thought how important outside appearances are? I mean, really thought about it? We work and concentrate at the "inner" level, but, what about the exterior level? All of us read about physical change, yah-dee-dah, but how many really listen?
So, here's my 2 cents:
When we first starting dating our S's, we put our "best" foot forward. How many of us, right now, look like we could go up to a stranger and try to smooth talk them into a date? Right now, how many? Very few, I would say!!!
Some of you may need to "refresh" yourselves.
Ladies: Do you wear the same hairstyle that you did years ago? Is the color faded, gray or just blah...? Do you sleep in old T-shirts, granny p.j.'s, or nightgowns from 10 years ago? Do you wear "rollers" (Forget that), night cremes (Dermatologists say the skin absorbs anything for about 20 minutes, then stops), wear scuungi's to hold the hair up, not keep your legs shaved, etc? Wear the old "comfortable" jeans with stains, rips, from 1912? Have you been measured for new bras, that s/b done yearly. Hint: If your "chest" falls to the bend at your elbow, you have no support. Have you "updated" your lingerie? Get rid of the old panties and bras - add colors, new styles, lace. It really will make you feel better.
Men: Same thing, get rid of those shorts that no longer look anything close to wearable. Need a haircut? Get one. Check your nails, do you need a manicure? Don't worry, it's called being metro-sexual. Do you still belch, or anything else, that "once" seemed funny, but now the S thinks disgusting? Do you wear "tidy-whities" or boxers that needed to see the garbage can, six months ago? Buy new ones, no your S doesn't have to do this, you can all on your own. Get some colors, patterns, or just new white ones. Any hair where there shouldn't be? Teeth yellow due to smoking or drinking? Try Crest's White strips or pay to have them lasered white (around $350.00).
All these little silly things make a difference...plus if anyone is guilty of the above, the change will make you feel better. If you can honestly say that your "look" today, is the way the S's first saw you when you dated, then good for you...if not, work on it. A little heavier than before? Lose it. Too skinny, gain some weight.
Obviously, the major work needs to be focused on our own neglects to our S's, but appearances are very much part of that.
If you're a stay at home mom/dad; when your S comes home from work are you clean looking? House cleaned? Kids bathed? Did you take the time to brush your teeth? Did you put on something fresh?
If your S lives apart from you: Do they call before coming over, or have a pattern when they do show up? Be prepared.
This doesn't mean to break the household account or look like a Prom Queen or King 24/7. It means to keep your "persona" in tact. If you're not sure about anything, just ask yourself, would you look like you do, or wear that on a date with your S?
