Hi! Yep, you went too far. Alcohol will always give anyone false gumption.
Let see, you know you set yourself back a few miles. Why? The alcohol, for one; but more importantly, it released some true feelings that you feel about yourself. It seems you feel less of a woman b/c H has or had an A. You seem to feel that maybe, if you were better in bed, you would win him back. Wrong - men can sleep with anyone and not exude any emotions towards the partner. We attach feelings before we proceed - a big difference.
Hopefully, you did blame it on the wine...but you also validated your desperate need to hang on. He'll sense that.
The only thing to do now is go dark. Don't compare yourself to the OW, don't call her names, it really lowers you into that pit of no return...always keep your dignity and always act like a lady.
His comment that she isn't like you...I LOL. I'll bet she is everything you "used to be". Retrace your steps to the level that you need to be at. All is not lost. Just don't ever do this again. The world doesn't need anymore people like "Mel Gibson!!!" LOL, LOL.
