I'm no Number lady but here's my 2 cents. I believe in taking responsibility for actions. If you feel what you did (text message) was wrong/hurtful then I would send another text or phone and apologize. Yes, apologize. Your H is not responsible for your behaviour no matter how hurt you feel (and probably righteously so). I would tell him that you were very emotional at that time and you are going to concentrate on getting yourself together, then, do it! Thankfully DB is a wagon you can always jump back onto. I hope this was helpful. I'm sure Number lady will be with you shortly
