Atty T and GrassH;

Gosh people, you're making me out to be Dr. Phil; I'm not
btw. Thank you both for the kind statements.

GH - I, like AttyTom, got fed up with some DB's b/c of
the lack of effort they put into practice. Granted, some
lack the education, some have substance abuse, but the
worst are the ones who keep asking what to do over and
over, but will not try...
Therefore, I simply spelled out the obvious...

Tom - LBS have an anxiety problem dealing with the issues.
Some cannot see their part in it. The LBS's are terrified
that if the S leaves - they will no longer live, they will
be lost forever. They feel that their whole world evolves
around the S - take that away, you have a parallel to
death. They feel that they will no longer be able to
function.

Which is the worse of the two evils, men or women? That
depends. I look at it as such:

1. Men try to hide their emotions
2. Generally, women don't - they can't hide it
3. Society says men aren't men if they blubber
4. Women will fall deeper, all at once, into the hole
5. Men will gradually fall ever so slowly
6. Women, do this to purge themselves of the pain, so
they are more dramatic about it; but they also
heal alot more quickly b/c of it
7. Men, if they fall into a deep hole, take longer to
get out of it - slow resilience to the pain "society"
says they should not feel
8. But, both, if they melded their whole being into the
other S w/o keeping their own individualism, will find
the detaching to be like a lobotomy w/o anesthesia.

I hope that answers some of your questions, if not post
back with more specifics.

Thanks again guys,
Welcome back GH, from your weekend...