Tom, I think men are not very used to being overwhelmed by feeling. We've been taught to put it away and when something so devastating hits , we're overwhelmed. Males aren't used to looking for emotional support, we play poker with the boys or watch the tube to unwind. Males are also taught NOT to allow disrespect and that anger is an appropriate response to any such action. I think betrayal by your partner is considered pretty high on the disrespect scale and males feel pretty helpless in dealing with it. That kind of attacks our manhood. My W is in an A with another woman, I don't know how I would be dealing with this if it were another guy. I don't even like to think about it. So, for what they are worth, those are my thoughts on your question.
