I guess I don't belong here after all. I've waited to respond because I was hoping someone could understand how I feel. After several weeks, I see that no one does. All I get is the "move-on" statement, and feelings that I'm now an OW. Great.
I totally disagree with this statement "To suggest doing anything would be like giving the OW advice on how to break up a marriage. "
That is NOT a marriage, because in the eyes of my church, my husband and I are still married to each other! Many years ago, my husband made a vow, "till death due us part", he broke that vow, not me. I am and always will until the day one of dies the LEGITIMATE wife in the eyes of GOD and she will always be the wh*re, the homewrecker and the OW. I can never be the OW where it concerns him. That piece of paper may be legal, as is my divorce, but it is NOT legitmate in the eyes of God and as a Catholic will never be.
I know we had problems and no I don't believe that they will magically disappear. I am truelly, the last person left on this earth that believes in the vows that we took mean something.
I'm sorry that people here see me as the OW now. That being the case, I see that this is the wrong place for me.
