Ok, I had been doing pretty good with the DB...until I ran into a friend of his and he told me he was talking about coming home AND he was having a sexual affair with the woman I kicked him out over. He has never admitted that it's ever been more than friendship...he says that have not had sex...but regardless, it is EMOTIONAL...so, he's been out for 9 months. We were getting along, talking, he'd come over the house and all until his friend told me about the sexual part. I didn't scream at him or anything...just tried to talk to him, but he wouldn't. I finally went up to the building where this woman works and confronted her. She says that they are nothing more than friends. She's been married for 30 years and her marriage is not too good. I didn't hit her, just told her that I loved my husband and called her a few choice words. It was in front of 1 person (friend of my husband and I). Told her I knew all about how she picks him up at the house and they go and "talk" I accused her of screwing my husband and asked her to leave him alone until they both figure out what they want in their own marriage. I then called my husband and told him I went and spoke with her. He said they are JUST FRIENDS. He said I can believe whatever I want and he said again that he has asked me for patience and time...but I told him that I needed to know if they were having sex and if he wanted to be with me. I asked him to tell me if they were having sex so I could let him go. Ok, I begged him to tell me. I told him that since I am a new Christian, the only way I can divorce him is if he is having a sexual affair (never been violent with me). I can't stand this any longer. It's bee 9 months and he tells people he is thinking of coming home, but he doesn't tell me. He says he is scared things will go back to the way they were before I kicked him out...anyways, I wrote him a letter and told him he has to chose either me or his FRIEND. Told him that he needs to leave me alone if he is still with her. Burned him a CD with all the songs that remind me of him and mailed the letter and CD. Told him that I want to try, but we both need counseling, he needs to get her out of the picture completely, and it would be a long road, but I want to try. I have changed. In the past I would have kicked that woman's ass...but I didn't. Church helps me. Again, I was doing good until I started hearing all this crap....OPINIONS.....WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW! I truly don't know how much longer I can wait...it's eating me up inside!