Where everybody knows your name...but not really

[MJontheMend]

Postscript to my last post: What I'm trying to communicate is that it is easy to have the POV of "Why should I invest more in a relationship from which I am unlikely to get the return that I desire?". The answer is that by investing more in the relationship you are really investing more in yourself because anything that improves the way that you function in any relationship improves you as a person. Therefore, by investing more in the relationship you are actually reducing your dependency within the relationship. When we HDFolk attempt to GAL, I think we often make the mistake of trying to compensate for a lame marriage by improving our life outside of the marriage. This is like being an employee who compensates for a cr*ppy job by concentrating on his social life or his hobbies. His overall happiness may improve but he is doing nothing to improve his prospects of being happy at any job in the future. This is true even in a relationship to which you have a lifetime commitment. People and circumstances change within a relationship just like things change within a business. Maybe things might change for the better and you won't be prepared because you were concentrating and reacting to the negative or maybe things will change irretrievably for the worse and you won't be prepared because you let your own boat sink in unison with someone else's.

After, I let myself whine a bit here on Friday, here's what I did . I decided to behave just as I would in a relationship in which I had my brains cheerfully f*cked out on Wednesday. I bought some beer and snacks for my H to drink with the game and I bought myself an attractive new outfit and looked forward to a fun Friday evening. The evening went alright and I did get f*cked quite nicely the next morning. So, there you go.