Hang in there gal. I have been right there in the emotions and some of the feedback you've been getting. Not fun to be in that snakepit. Mine went through that wishywashy crap for quite awhile. I finally just had to make peace with myself and try to start making my own life, one without him. I desperately wanted him to come back, but like you, the back and forth was beyond torture.
We did reconcile and have worked things out, for many years now, after my getting it together for myself. Hopefully someone else can offer advice. I'm new to the board. Wanted to say hello and be a listening ear. Take care now