So much happening so fast...

[twist_of_fate]

what was bothering me. I guess I was expecting a sympathetic response - reassurances - but I didn't get them at all. I was unable to keep from crying, so I just had to walk away for awhile. Once we had both calmed down, we held each other and he gave me those reassurances that I needed,

oh boy! that was me last weekend, about the SAME subject, and the same thing happened. I actually pushed H to tell me that I was better than the other or at least that he was happy in that are w/me (at the same time asking VERY specific questions ) And i also got nothing, not then not later, well, not much.

So you are lucky that he later did reasure you, I know it is so painful to think of our H's w/others, but it is something we must TRAIN our brains to do, to push it to the back of our thoughts, to label it "old news" and MAKE ourselves focus on something positive, I keep telling people to fill their minds w/positive reads. Get "healing the hurt in your M", excellent when you dont' think you can get past that.

I also think that by over reacting the way I did pushes us back, and even though my H didnt' say it I know each time I have a tantrum we regress. But one time he did agree that this piecing business is "one step forward, two steps back".

that I'm not being patient and just allowing us to reconnect.

Yup, that's also what my H said, tells me to relax and that we have time.

And it's a good thing- he's been supportive, remember-that he made the appt. Funny you mentioned why you guys went at the beginning, that's why we had our first one too when he left, the MC saw right through him.

He's left her and he's w/you, fear will destroy your peace, then you'll project your uneasyness onto him and how is he supposed to open up to you nor feel safe? OK, so I also have to follow my advice, but recognice that fear is not going 2 help.