Here is the summary of my last sitch with my W eventhough the new one is completely different.
When we found out about her being pregnant with my S4 she kind of freaked out and did not want any part of me for about 8 months. I tried everything I could to try and be a part of her life right then because I was so excited that it was our first baby together (My first). Well nothing worked so I just got a journal and started writing to my unborn S in it. Then when we went to get the ultra sound and found out it was a boy we both teared up and it was like a light switch went off in herr head and she fell back in love with me. Once the baby was born we were so excited and renewed that loving feeling that she had lost for me.
Then we got married and were happy for three years until she snapped and went off the deep end again.
When you see that baby that will be the only thing that you will want to do or be with for a long time. Not to mention this will brign the two of you closer together.
Keep your chin up you are definitly in my prayers.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
I do hope my H can find some loving feelings for me again. I miss him so much. We were both so happy when our first son was born and i know that we will both feel the same when this little one is born. I know that my children will always be the most important thing in my life and although my sitch is a nightmare i do think that i am so lucky to have one beautiful son and another baby on the way. I really do hope that this will bring me and H closer together, at least it will mean he will be spending a little more time with me, which will hopefully put pressure on his relationship with ow.
My gut instinct is that nothing will change my H mind now and that he is 100% sure that our M is over. I hope i'm wrong!
I'm so sorry that you are going through all this hell aswell, especially as you managed to get through the problems you had when W was pregnant with your 1st son. But you managed to recover from that so lets hope you can do it again this time.
UL, They all are completely convinced the M is over. It just goes with the turf! Michelle says not to believe a word you hear them say in this regard. Just keep plugging away UL, if you stop DBing you can bet your M will be over. So, really, you have no choice but to keep going on hope for the best (or better to "wonder").
