Whatisis is exactly right. Too much hashing over the same
stuff. I had to go through 3 before I found the right C
that got to the issues that needed to be addressed. I had
told the first two that I didn't want to pay off their
mortgages - just get me out of the tunnel I was in.

Some will go down the long road from childhood, others, like
the one you have will go down the road of parental example,
which, by the way, aren't necessarily wrong, but you both
need a C to take it from where you are now, to where you
need and want to be. Try talking to the C to focus on that
for you both.